No matter how non-judgmental and open we think we are, we all grow up with negative or critical messages that shape us. We all on some level categorize others in our minds. Many of us have strong uncomplimentary opinions and we sometimes, intentionally or not, communicate these thoughts and ideas to others. These messages, just like parenting styles, get handed down generation after generation, so if you are a negative or critical parent, know that your style and your messages will likely carry through to your grandchildren and beyond. Even the most kind, patient, and loving parent slips into a negative statement once in a while. Controlling negativity in your communication is for the parent whose automatic style is critical, angry, overly strict, or rigid. It is the repetition of experience that imprints a child's self-esteem and developing sense of who they are.
DR. FRAN'S TOP TEN TIPS:
It's a funny thing about reading stories to small children. With a cozy, blanket-clutching child firmly ensconced on your lap (next to you is not close enough—he must be on the lap, you read stories in which a small child (or animal proxy) ventu... read more
Few parents, no matter how often they might feel impatient and frustrated, set out to model unkindness for their children; in fact, most parents would probably identify the teaching of kindness as one of their primary child-rearing goals. The world, ... read more