It's a rough world out there. Disease, death, poverty - the list goes on and on. As an adult, it's hard enough to deal with these issues, but as a parent, we must walk a fine line between sheltering our children and talking about the tough stuff.
My preschooler is currently firmly in the "why" phase. Although I have not yet received the "Where did I come from?" question, it can't be far away. I asked Barb Steinberg, a clinical social worker who recently produced a DVD for parents and schools linking teens' self-esteem to sexual choices, for advice about how to start talking about sex now. As a therapist and also mom to 4 1/2 year old Jack Emerson, Barb shares this great list of tips.
So, you are the parent of a preschooler; why on earth would you be thinking about sex now? We live in a sexual world. The questions will be here before you know it, and you need to be prepared!
Is there such a thing as giving too much information? No. Information does not encourage kids to be sexually active. It helps them to make better decisions.
What if you are uncomfortable talking about sex? That's okay. Many parents feel this way. Be honest and tell your kids that even though you are uncomfortable, you want them to come to you. Be open and available.
When is the best time to start? Now!
For our babies:
For our toddlers and preschoolers:
Keep talking, but most importantly, keep listening!
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