When we found out the sex of our second child, the conversation almost invariably went like this, “A boy, huh? Watch out, boys are crraaazzzyy.”
And invariably my answer would be “After almost three years with my daughter, I think I am ready for anything a boy can throw at us.”
Our writing prompt for this essay was “I never had brothers — how one mom got over the constant ricocheting of her very physical child.” Well, I did have a brother, and he was definitely the kind of boy that never stopped moving and was practically on a first name basis with the emergency room physicians in the town where we grew up. So I should have been ready for a kid to be a human hurricane.
But when I found out our first child was a girl, I know we were both expecting what most people think of when they think of a girl – docile, not especially active, happy to sit and color or play quietly. A girl like, well, me.
And then she got mobile. She wasn’t especially quick to be on the move –- she crawled and walked at the outside edge of “normal” parameters. But once she started, she never, ever stopped. She runs almost everywhere – just now, at four and change, is she calm enough to mostly walk when she’s supposed to. She gets so worked up when she’s with friends that she sort of wiggles and hops even when she’s just standing and chatting. And let’s just say my thought to name her “Grace” was thankfully abandoned, because that is one attribute she doesn’t have. A frequent sequence of events in our house is as follows: THUD. “I’m okay!” Giggle.
Essentially, after four years of this one, my nerves are shot, and her brother appears to be just as active but in different ways. Here is what I have learned in the time I’ve been mom to Energy Girl:
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